Male employee hijacks female coworker's presentation in front of clients despite her doing all the work: 'I almost laughed but didn’t'

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  • A woman in a black shirt sits with her male coworker at a presentation at work
  • Was I in the wrong for not jumping in when my coworker hijacked my presentation and messed it up?

    He cut me off again mid- sentence and I just... stopped talking. Like completely. We were at a small team lunch thing, nothing fancy, just sandwiches and those weird dry cookies no one eats but they're always there. I was telling a client about a campaign I've been working on for weeks-like actually *my* project, I stayed late for it, skipped gym twice (which... ok I wasn't going anyway but still).
  • And my coworker Jason just jumps in with "yeah what she means is" and starts explaining it. Not even correctly. I just sat there like... what. This isn't even new. He does this thing where he repeats what I say but louder, like he's translating me into "important person language" or something. And people actually start looking at *him* when he talks. It's so weird. It's so weird.
  • So this time I didn't jump back in. I just let him go. He kept going too, like fully took over, adding random details that weren't even part of the plan. At one point he mentioned a feature we literally cut last week. I almost laughed but didn't. The client looked confused. Like actually confused.
  • Then Jason looks at me and goes "right?" like expecting me to back him up. And I just shrugged and said "you seem to have it covered." He kinda froze. Like actually froze for a second. After the meeting he said I made him look bad by not supporting him. I don't know... maybe I could've stepped in, but I'm tired of always fixing it.
  • Commenters weighed in with their thoughts an opinions.

    Designer_Though... He made himself look bad by being an idiot
  • andmewithoutmy... I would have said "no, you're actually incorrect about several key points. Would like me to finish explaining my own project more, or did you have more you wanted to add before I correct you?"
  • Samwry NTJ. I think you should hit him with one of those ultra bitchy "I'm TALKING!" when he tries to interrupt. Or be a bit more polite and say "Jason, why don't you let me finish, OK? THanks..." and keep going. He is overcompensating for a small sorry a small brain, by having a big voice.
  • xopeachyfairy He made himself look bad by taking over something that wasn't his and getting it wrong, that's not on you.
  • Coygon NTJ. Jason either is trying to steal credit for your project by casting himself as the primary worker - and possibly the only worker - on it, or he is a misogynist who feels he can explain things to a client better than
  • the woman who is most familiar with things. Either way, he deserved a lot worse than you gave him. Keep an eye on him, and be prepared to go yo HR about this if he makes a big deal over this meeting or tries something similar again.
  • A male and a female coworker present together
  • macross 1984 Your coworker tried to be something he wasn't qualified and paid the consequence. NTJ
  • flindersrisk I'm just going to guess he wouldn't have steamrollered you had you been male, with exception for timid doormat males. I hate that a certain section of the population believes women have no validity except as a resource to be used and discarded by men.
  • cinnamongirl73 Sounds like you need a meeting with HR or a Manager about him "mansplaning" everything you say.
  • Top-Bit85 Did you bother to set the client straight on what he got wrong?
  • Working_Estate_... I have seen a member of the "out" group field a really good idea in a middle-school-esque work environment, watched the "in" group dismiss it, then a few minutes later seen the very same idea offered up by the most popular
  • member of the "in-group" and seen the greater group embrace it. So I had to say, "Isn't that what John just said a minute ago?" I was in the next round of layoffs but f____ them. f..
  • HeartoftheHive I would have full on embarrassed him. "Right?" "Not at all, but keep going. I want to see what else you will make up."
  • regularforcesme... YTJ to yourself for not stepping in and running your presentation. So you made him look officious and inept. Cool. At a client presentation might not have been the time.
  • Historical-State-... Nope. He's trying power plays, he can suffer the consequences. He's lucky you haven't gone to HR.
  • Specialist_Bike_1... Hopefully, everyone saw what 'Jason' done. It's asshats like him that eventually get what they asked for. A reputation in the office as the 'project thief'. People will see him for who he is, without you saying anything.
  • h... He was mansplaining to the group. Go to your boss. Explain what he did. How he damaged the whole presentation. NTJ
  • Bitter-Art7631 Never interrupt your enemy with they're making a mistake. Not an enemy per se, but you get the idea. Let the fool expose his own foolishness.
  • Samwry I think you could blade Jason very effectively by saying something like; "Jason is new and very eager to impress our clients. Now as I was saying...."
  • And when you are done and back at the office, just tell him that the next time he interrupts you, you will cut off his head so fast he won't have time to blod.
  • Specific_Leave313 Next time just say: this is my project, stop messing around like you actually did something. I won't tolerate it anymore. You will lose a horrible co-worker and will find peace
  • Certain-Let2040 You need to talk to your manager. He is literally taking credit for your work. Think of it as mansplaining at the career level. He is being a sexist j and undermining you.
  • He also made the company look bad to the client. Use that as your in so you don't get labeled difficult. "Hey can I talk to you about something in private? At lunch on Tuesday, Jason
  • started talking about x project at the client lunch. He misspoke several times about it. I didn't want to embarrassed him so I didn't correct him in public. This happens frequent. How should I handle it in the future?"
  • As a woman, phasing it this way makes the manager aware so they are watching for it. Depending on their response, Jason may be corrected or you will be told he's just trying to help. If its the 2nd response, start looking for a new job asap.

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